ABOUT ME,  watercolor

Have you ever been bullied during childhood?

December 4, 2011 /

I know, I had. It was a nightmare. When my parents got divorced, my siblings and I had to be left under the care of my grandparents (now deceased) while my mother went to the city looking for a job to support us and to find a descent rental home to live. We were transferred to a school in Kg. Sega, Raub. The students were not very friendly and they had this mindset — “city kids are bad kids and therefore needs to be bullied”. Other states but Kg. Sega were considered ‘city’ that time. I had my nightmares when they throw leeches on me (on of them stuck on my leg), stole my money and my art materials. They were also using sarcastic remarks when I was the only one who reacted to the teachers when they asked questions. Showing off, they said.

But all that came to and end when my mother came to pick us up and left for Kuala Lumpur in 1979. In Kuala Lumpur, I had never been bullied once. Never. I belong to the city.

Not many of the students in my class back then knew this but I was actually born in Kg. Sega, Raub.

Here’s one illo I did for the calendar project.

And the mindset didn’t really leave the town, my niece and cousin were both bullied at schools in Raub few years back. Their stationery were stolen and they had to endure verbal abuse from classmates. My cousin who is now studying in one of the universities in KL really glad to finished school. As for my niece, she is staying with me now and go to nearby school. She never been bullied here.

19 Comments

  • Azah

    December 4, 2011 at 6:23 pm

    I had experienced that too kak. Almost 3 years, I have been bullied by my own friends. They don’t bully me physically, but the worst is mentally. They said terrible things at my back and make everyone hate me. I grow up as quite teenager because of that. It happen when I was at Tangkak. When my family moved to Selangor, no one bully me but they want to be my friends. I finally grow up in healthy way because of the different environment. My art was accepted and I was really happy to have the real friends. After many years when I come back to hometown, no one ever recognized me. Yes, I’m different now, stronger, healthier, comelier..hehehe..

    I feel sad to them. They never apologize to me. Even some of them try to connect with me.
    But I never put grudge in my heart. I never can be so strong like now if it not because of them. Instead, I thanks to them. But I don’t want to see them again..hahaha 😀

    Now, if someone try to bully me. I just like Okay, go ahead and try. I just smile and let them be. But I will never let my days ruin because of anyone. Maybe that is why I become a teacher, so I can be be superhero to help children from bully. 😀

  • Spiffy

    December 4, 2011 at 7:24 pm

    I was bullied by this boy in my standard 4 class (I think) who kept hitting me on the head everyday from behind until one day, I couldn’t take it anymore and got up and punched him right on the nose. I was so relieved seeing him crying with his bleeding nose and he never bullied me anymore after that 😀

  • emila

    December 4, 2011 at 8:18 pm

    Good for you, Azah. It’s very sad that they just could not accept new students from outside the town. They felt threaten and tried so hard to make people hate us. Nowadays, orang pun tak boleh bully Kak Emi. I put up a good fight.

  • Reen

    December 5, 2011 at 1:17 am

    My primary school days were nightmares to me. Being different, and no friends. Because no one wanted to be friend with me due to my skin condition. Their parents asked their children to stay away from me. I cried everyday after school, from primary 1-6. And until today, I don’t want to remember anyone of my so-called friends, but because of facebook, they found me and I found them, virtually. I don’t feel like to meet anyone of them because I really had bad experiences. Being bullied is an awful feeling. I don’t to recall any of it. I hate that experiences. 🙂

  • marvic

    December 6, 2011 at 10:03 am

    me too pernah kena buli, kena kutuk, kena sindir and semua nya la..during my primary school.. and now i know i am way better than them all.. even now i dont even want to be friend with them..

  • emila

    December 6, 2011 at 5:19 pm

    Aww poor girl…that was indeed a very bad experiences. Just forget about them, you now have many friends. I am one of them, although I met you once.

  • 3p

    December 9, 2011 at 12:47 pm

    hahahhaha, this make me real LOL,,,,>.<
    it sure hurt a lot,
    used to do it to my younger sister,,,,
    naughty kid once,,,haha

  • Sueltra

    December 12, 2011 at 12:38 pm

    i was a victim too. they called me names (because i;m tiny, thin & have dark complexion)..they insult my father’s job (he was a penjual roti..)…

  • hana

    January 6, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    Me also got bullied by them when i’m in standard 1, they asked me to sweeping in the cupboard and start that day, i hate broom